Psychologists call it the most common trauma in adulthood, yet, exactly because of that, the deep feelings of emotional damage it causes are often underrated. Recovering from a breakup requires a lot of self-care and the resetting of your internal GPS, so that the journey can continue; and like all wounds, it takes time to heal.

1. Talking Helps. Family and true friends are there to provide a safety net in such situations, and letting off steam by sharing your emotions is the first step to easing the pressure of overwhelming stress. You may find, however, that getting professional help is a good idea. A therapist can provide a neutral perspective and can create awareness about behavior patterns that could be symptomatic, so that any future relationships are healthier and happier for you.

2. Don’t Break Routine. And if you don’t have one, build one. Your sleep, eat and exercise routine could be the stable factor that will get you back on your feet. Eating binges are very common after trauma. It’s important to realize that this is a critical time where you need to keep yourself together for the healing to begin. Eat healthy, get proper sleep, and vent your anger and energy in regular workouts at the gym.

3. Splurge on yourself. This is the one time when luxury may be a necessity. Indulge in some pampering that will boost your self-esteem. Get a new haircut, a new wardrobe, and budget permitting, a new car; little steps to a new you!

4. Limit Contact With Your Ex. ‘Losing someone who doesn’t respect and appreciate you is a gain, not a loss’. For a relationship that’s going nowhere, getting into blind alleys is just going to waste time and energy and cause further distress. If you’ve decided to cut loose, there’s no point in hanging around the periphery of each other’s lives. You both deserve to move on. It’s actually not unlike a detox treatment. Get your ex out of your system.

5. Take Some Time Off. A change of scenery may be the best thing after a break-up. It’s hard to focus on work anyway when you’re in emotional hell, so take a break and get away for some quiet time, alone or with people you’re comfortable with. Creating a distance will give you better perspective and help in the healing process.